((((((((((((((Evangelista)))))))))))) I am the same way in real life that I am on line. I have no regrets. you see we are taught as children to keep quiet and abusers depend on our silence. they know what they are doing or did is wrong otherwise they would not have told me not to tell. It was telling that stopped the abuse finally and it was my telling that made a few others in the family to stand up for themselves and it was my telling that made a few stop what they were doing and get help for them and in at least one case that I know of he took his victim to therapy and paid for her to get help so that she would not go through the things I do because of what happened to me.

There is nothing wrong with telling. It just takes one step at a time to break free of the 'do not tell or else' programing of childhood.

as for why some people open up more on line like the posts here its because it is not face to face. Think about things in real life its easier to plan what you want to tell someone but once you are face to face with that person you see the reaction of what you are saying as you are saying it beacuse of the other persons tone of voice, facial expressions and so on. based on those body messages the person telling gages how much they are going to tell that person. But here on line its like keeping a journal. there is no once looking at us with various facial expressions and tones of voice and so on. With out these body messages to clue us in on how much we should say at one time sometimes the person ends up writing more than they originally planned.

If that ever happens to you here just pm a moderator or administrator like Kimmydawn, January, Ben, Doc John.. theres lots of them here and explain that you are not comfortable with what you posted and they will delete that post for you. Nothing stays on this site that you do not want here.

By the ways with me you will always fit in my friend. Just pm me and I here. You are not alone.