Draft of what I want to say to my therapist:
I want to talk to you about being angry with me.
I believe that you feel protective of me and of our relationship, and that your anger comes from love. I want you to keep on being angry with me. But recently I have found it a little difficult to take.
We did a lot of good stuff last session, but your anger is what I remember.
If I were harming myself physically, I would want you to be angry. But what I heard was that some of my behaviour is equivalent to cutting myself. I don’t see that.
You are usually willing to be wrong, but not always. On some issues you have very firm opinions and get angry with me when I disagree. I usually take your advice but sometimes not, and I don’t think anger is the appropriate response.
Sometimes I make up my mind before I’ve consulted properly with you. That makes you really angry. But it cuts both ways. You have made up your mind without consulting properly with me.