NF, you should be proud of yourself! i am so happy for you to start out on your own again. i always thought i was odd man out in my family. i now realize they are very dysfunctional and used me as the scapegoat. all those many years i just wanted a family to be a part of. now i know it wasn't me at all! i've gone out on my own...only have contact with my son. my life is so much better. i created my new family-wonderful friends who love me for just being me. i'm sure the same will happen to you. keep us posted on your new life.