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Please don't let your bf pressure you into having sex when you aren't ready

He shouldn't say he would cheat on you if he got drunk, that is a major red flag and you deserve a partner that will respect you and your wishes.

Sex is an emotional and physical act. I waited till I was 21 and felt very safe with my bf before I gave him my virginity. It changed the relationship because having sex with someone gives you an emotional attachment and sometimes you can feel a bit vulnerable afterwords. Because I trusted my bf and I know he would never hurt me it made our relationship stronger. I really would be weary on having a sexual relationship with this guy, it doesn't sound like he is very respectful of your wishes.

You deserve the best and you don't deserve somene that would cheat on you. You can be without him. I put myself in a situation before being with my current bf that I felt I had to be with my ex, I though I couldn't be without him. He was a very toxic person and he did more damage to my self esteem than anything else. That was something I couldn't see until I made the stand to cut contact with him. And when I did I was a happier healthier person that realized I can be independent and I deserved to be with someone that would respect me and my beliefs. I had to work on myself for awhile before I could be in another relationship and I am grateful I did, I now have a happy healthy and loving relationship with a man that respects me and loves me for who I am and I know would never betray my trust.

You are young and there is plenty of time to find someone that will treat you like the wonderful person you are and you deserve to be treated like. It sounds like you are a very smart girl and have a very bright future.

Wishing you the best and pm anytime you need to talk
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