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Originally Posted by zooropa
a month ago we had a plan to do more trauma work after spending some time focusing on the skills. Yesterday she said there would be no point to that, because trauma will just keep happening. She said that's the way my life is, that since she's known me there hasn't been a month without something happening, and I have to accept that's what I create in my life.
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I'd like to send her a copy of William Ryan's book, Blaming the Victim. It's an old classic that argues as its central thesis that people who are victimized are not responsible for the trauma inflicted upon them. I am unaware of any school of therapy that says that you should blame your clients for what happens to them.
Part of the point of trauma work is that it strengthens a victim in ways that prevent retraumatization, so her statement just doesn't make logical sense either.
It might be helpful to you to get a new T who is actually trained in trauma, or who doesn't say stupid s&&* about it. I think saying this is horrendous and ignorant.
Anne