Thanks for the replies...I don't know if I will press charges. Before I do anything, I HAVE to work things out with my husband. Maybe once we can see each other face to face, it will be different.
The reason he thinks I'm lying is when I was 14 and he was 15, we were dating and I cheated on him then. I broke it off and told him everything...but I was a CHILD, doing things I NEVER should have done. He still hangs that over my head.
Part of the reason I'm unsure I will press charges, Jake is a 'good ol boy' if you know what I mean. He's married, has a child, and every cop (county AND state) know him. They wouldn't believe me. And I would be even more harassed than I am now, by more people. I just want this to go away.
We are about to be stationed in Kansas...so I'm hoping I can just forget about it for a month, and when we move I'll never have to see these people again.

@Kathy: I'm a fighter, for sure. Normally I would have gone down kicking and screaming. I don't know if it was the alcohol or the loneliness, but I just didn't fight it as hard as I should have.

@tohelpafriend: I'm sorry that happened to you! It's such a miserable feeling, such a helplessness. If you need anyone, just let me know!