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Originally Posted by skysblue
Ygrec, I'm not sure myself what 'working through' looks like. But I think all the comments about not running away from the feelings and facing them is a good first step. It's our avoidance and our hiding that doesn't allow change or healing. My T constantly tells me to bring my emotions out into the open. Only then can we learn about them and learn how to effectively manage them. It's really really tough and scary too. But I think I'm beginning to see the positive result of grabbing the small bit of courage at my disposal and doing what my T suggests.
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You're better than I am, skysblue. For me, those emotions are hidden so deeply, and so covered with concrete and so buried, that finding them and feeling them is something I'm very much still working on. My whole family is like that. Emotions? That's something people have in Uzbekhistan. Feelings? Don't be silly, have a martini. And, as Jack Paar used to say (know Jack Paar?): I kid you not.
Is this somehow easier for women than for men? I really don't know quite what to do. T isn't strongly leaning on me to access these, feel them and get them out. And I'm rather dubious about her attitude. I WANT them out. I WANT to feel them. Hasn't happened yet. The REAL feelings. Not the anxiety, which is familiar and boring. The ones BEHIND the anxiety. You know! Take care.
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