Facing and accepting that you create trauma in your life ins't accepting that it will always be in your life, or even that T won't help you through it. I heard it as meaning that it will be the same unless you make it different but without accepting your role in the matter change is not going to happen.

Hopefully you can gain clarification from your T and I hope she is not throwing her hands up in the air. For her to say that trauma is going to happen to you well how would anyone know that. It sounds pretty confusing.