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Old Oct 28, 2011, 05:44 AM
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i have very very few memories and have found it better to work at understanding what beliefs are triggered by the event, then working on correcting the beliefs. eg if someone ignores me and triggers great distress, i don't necessarily need to find instances in past where i was ignored, but rather understand that when i feel ignored i believe this means i am worthless or don't exist. so then i can work on correcting that belief (eg learning that i have worth regardless of how others treat me).
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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