Well, what is CPTSD, but the accumulation of a thousand little cuts? (not literal cuts, necessarily). Don't underestimate "drama" - the word has been in the news recently as being used by teenage girls, when what is really meant is bullying. So that is what I am hearing here, is that we are minimizing what we are doing to ourselves, and denying ownership by calling it drama. Is getting fired from my job a trauma from the outside or something I cause by my actions? A lot of ways to answer that question.

Also, a therapist who is a good match for you, when life happens, has the effect of kissing your scraped knee and making it all better, not of being exasperated with you for falling, or of being more hurt by your knee than you are. When all you've had is the latter types, as mum and T, it is a surprise and an effin miracle to find the former, a T who will stand with you and say, WE can make this better. Of course, YOU have to believe that kiss eases the pain!