I have to be honest.. I'm a little confused by how much work you put into this relationship. If I remember correctly, you've been having problems with this man since day one of your marriage after a very short engagement/dating period. I guess, in my opinion, if you haven't already, I would try to find a new couples therapist. I'd also suggest finding one for yourself, perhaps so you can start rebuilding your self esteem and self worth. I would also start considering whether or not this man is really worth all the effort you put forth. Best wishes