It's a total guess, Zoo, but I think it means learning to roll with the punches rather than resisting them. The thing is, life will continue to be what it is, whether or not you accept reality and learn to work with it. If you don't accept it, life doesn't get angry or upset or depressed...you do!

I think it sounds like something my T might say, so let me give you an example. I've spent years refusing to accept the fact that there's no way to make up for or change the reality of my mother's neglect and abuse when I was a kid. When I finally figured out that she'll never be who I wanted her to be--nor would it make a difference sincethe abuse was in the past, so a "redo" today wouldn't really accomplish much--I started looking to other women for mothering. For years, now, I've done that, despite the reality that even when I've gotten some of it, it doesn't really help. The best thing I could do would be to mourn the losses and move on, but I'm stuck because I can't accept the reality that that will always be a hole in my life that nothing can simply "fix."

Anyway, that's me, but does it sound familiar to you? Are there times when you're unwilling to accept reality and react accordingly? Do you think you're especially stubborn about anything in particular that doesn't ultimately serve you well?