If I really want to work on something that is lurking but I can't bring myself to, I ask for T's help in bringing up "a topic I want to work on" at the next session. He always remembers. If I don't say that to him, he will let me bring up whatever I want to work on. I don't create drama or talk about our relationship, but I have plenty of other ways to avoid the painful issues! I suggest telling your T what you have said here and also enlisting her help in sticking on a particular topic from one session to the next if you need that.