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Originally Posted by Justme_55
Can I ask how in you're own way you have been able to move past the resentment against him? I'm separated and so angry with my husband for a plethora of reasons; and angry with myself for him not respecting standard boundaries, & me putting up with it. I'm so happy you have moved forward, I know time and therapy (for me) is easing the anger; but I have alot of contempt I need to rid myself of; any advice is much appreciated!!
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here's two good articles that can help you regain your self esteem and empower yourself. http://www.dumblittleman.com/2008/08...nal-abuse.html and this one too http://www.ehow.com/how_2379720_over...nal-abuse.html
the most important thing that is necessary to learn is your abuse came from your spouse. he owns it.and any guilt lies with him. you need to rid yourself of your guilt cause you didn't do anything wrong. i found i had the POW syndrome. i felt unworthy. i felt my feelings and emotions were not allowed. i had lost myself. i became emotionless. so i needed to relearn who i really was. i had no idea anymore.
this can be done  . also i found it important to learn in therapy how to spot the red flags in other people that had the potential to be abusive. can't tell you how many times it's avoided me getting into an unhealthy relationship again. so i strongly recommend you discuss the with your therapist. it's important too for your future well being. i wish you well.
feel free to pm me if you like.
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