Thanks everyone for sharing. There are things that happen that are so painful and so difficult to overcome, even in sharing I know is hard, it is for me too. There are times when things seem so impossible; I really can relate to this too.

Being a victim and in therapy for more years than I can count, I finally began to understand that we really truly DO have a choice in what we are going to do about a situation, about ourselves in a situation, or how we are going to handle it. Even making no decision or doing nothing is a choice for ourselves; it is still not a matter of letting others decide for us, as indecision is still a decision we have made. It typically fairs better to actively make a choice, especially in setting healthy boundaries or even ANY kind of boundary to protect ourselves and our loved ones. We cannot change what has happened but we can change what we do about it now. So many things that happen and continue to happen to us are things that we have allowed to happen by indecision or thinking we can't change it; we actually can make a choice to change it, and there is comfort and power that comes from that first step to make a difference and turn it around.