Thanks for your posts -I am still feeling pretty positive that this is a major shift for me - I can't quite get my head around how it happened, was it T being clever and stabbing at the right spot at the right time, is this just something I would have worked out for myself at sometime in the future without this difficult session? There are aiso questions about how one can have a relationship with anyone if the focus is always on oneself - isn't this being a little selfish?

But I am telling myself to slow down, it doesn't matter about all the add on questions that are getting fired off - the significant thing is that I feel clearer headed and more positive that this can be a real turning point after 20 months of passivity.