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Boundries! Thye will keep walking all over you until you establish firm boundries with all of them. The WILL NOT like it at first and will accuse you of being a bad mom etc...but do not let that get to you.
My suggestion is to go to AL-ANON or find a therapist to work with so you can stand firm in your boundries. They will continually try to manipulate you and continue to challenge those boundries. Your husband has got to follow this as well. This is hard to do and requires that you stick to it, and do not ever give in. When you establish these boundries make sure you can do it before you ever tell them.
This will not be easy and you must believe you are doing the right thing or it won't work. No guilt!
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Oscar Wilde
Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
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