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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Thanks for your posts -I am still feeling pretty positive that this is a major shift for me - I can't quite get my head around how it happened, was it T being clever and stabbing at the right spot at the right time, is this just something I would have worked out for myself at sometime in the future without this difficult session? There are aiso questions about how one can have a relationship with anyone if the focus is always on oneself - isn't this being a little selfish?
But I am telling myself to slow down, it doesn't matter about all the add on questions that are getting fired off - the significant thing is that I feel clearer headed and more positive that this can be a real turning point after 20 months of passivity.
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If I may again draw from my own therapy. Ultimately even the relationship itself gets transcended. It, after all, is a powerful vehicle for change, but only up until the point that vehicle gets transferred to you.
The focus *is* and always has been *you*. The relationship mirrors that.
When therapy works *you* become the mirror and can see yourself clearly.
FWIW the love, trust and intimacy between you and the therapist (at least in my instance) never goes away, but it is no longer the metric of progress.
It turns into a peaceful, solid thing.