I don't know where she's going with that. I do know that "accepting life on life's terms" is used in AA a lot, and that's where T got it. Acceptance is, of course, also a big part of DBT, and I have no argument that acceptance is important.

I just don't quite understand what "life's terms" are, you know? Does it mean accepting what is happening, or what has happened, rather than trying to change it? To me that is acceptance (or radical acceptance, as it's called in DBT terms) and I don't understand or know if there is a difference between that and "accepting life on life's terms."

anyway, I will ask T and then I'll come and let you guys know. Maybe it's one of those things that means something different to everyone.