You asked how other people did things in their families, as far as losing your temper, why are you upset when you ask others opinions and then you don't like it? If you want to get mad get mad at your family, not at someone who is trying to get you to see that you just need to be honest, and set boundaries. Not be passive/aggressive and take your anger out on a stranger. When someone comes into your home and does something you don't like tell them not to do it. I'm sorry I guess I don't understand.