I know where you all are coming from.. I found out last year that my boyfriend (31) looks at porn all the time at work, which doesn't really bother me... But he also has cyber sex and phone sex with women and men that he meets in adult chat sites... I have told him many times that I know and all he does is deny it.. Yes it does hurt... It hurts me that he can talk to them like that, but he won't talk to me that way and it also hurts me that he is hiding it from me, when I have confronted him about it and still lied to me.. Yes it does hurt and I agree it is not "normal"