Okay, you know, I am just recently realizing this but I think he has done it for a very long time. I wake up and my husband has my undershirt untucked and is touching anything that he wants to. Before I actually realized what it was specifically, I would often wake up just generally feeling violated. I also noticed that I plan what to wear to bed that will help me to feel more secure - more layers, waistbands that I can tie tightly, long tops, .... I guess that he figues I'm more receptive in the morning. When I wake up he expects more action and he acts hurt if he doesn't get it, and turns up the grabbing and helping himself (not just in the morning - it ends up being any time, any place, as it keeps intensifying until I give in). This really started getting to me on weekends when I stayed up past 3 a.m. studying because that's the only time I can concentrate, and I was counting on sleeping in, and he woke me up that way around 6 (maybe he figured on trying to get what he wanted before the kids were up). I was really irritated the first morning, and then the same thing happened the next morning too. I'm not good at saying no, so I give him what he wants more out of guilt ,and feeling obligated, and wanting to be left alone. I've been starting to be aware of this for maybe three years, and the awareness just keeps getting bigger and bugging me more, but if I work on saying no when I want to, I know he won't like that and will probably just turn it up a notch. Well, maybe I don't know that for sure, but that's my guess. And it doesn't really seem fair to him. Somebody tell me what to do.

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