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Oct 30, 2011, 10:36 AM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,114
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Originally Posted by Justme_55
Can I ask how in you're own way you have been able to move past the resentment against him? I'm separated and so angry with my husband for a plethora of reasons; and angry with myself for him not respecting standard boundaries, & me putting up with it. I'm so happy you have moved forward, I know time and therapy (for me) is easing the anger; but I have alot of contempt I need to rid myself of; any advice is much appreciated!!
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Justme, I'm not sure I can offer any useful advice. My husband has been dead for ten years now. There is still a part of me that is angry about what he did to me. I don't know that that piece of anger will ever go away. At the same time I can also remember the good times of our relationship. Shortly before I ended therapy my T told me that was a sign of healing.
It sounds like you have not been separated from your husband very long. Maybe you need to give yourself time to process it in therapy?
I was still married to my husband when he died so my situation was different than yours. I found when I finally stopped trying to help my husband and focused on what I needed to do for me I started to heal. Does that make sense?
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