Hi BlueCasper,

I feel most people are broken and flawed in some way. Some hide it better than others. Ever hear of the saying "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation?" There are people who seem to have the world in the palm of their hand, yet suffer immeasurably. While others come from destitution to reach great successes. You have a lot of great qualities, many of which I see and value in myself. The reality is, it will always be difficult for you and others like you to find and foster intimate, romantic relationships as well as other close relationships. But it is certainly no where near impossible. Like everyone else, you just have to find a way to highlight your best qualities and manage the less than ideal ones. While I don't think mentally healthy people honestly desire to deal with such difficult problems.. just reality speaking... there are those who are more capable, empathetic and emotionally mature to be able to stand by your side and be your rock as you venture forth in life together. It may be harder to find them, but they exist. Some women can't handle their man losing his job and will dump him over that. Others can weather devastating traumatic injuries in their significant other. The key is to put your bait in the water, get out there and take risks, make your life happen for you and happiness will greet you along the way.