Hello.

I am not sure about the rules in your school or the rules of ethics, but I would try to be his tutor first before his friend.

I used to run a support group face to face and I fell in love with a man there (I was 31) and I had to stop running the group because it didn't work out. And it was interfering with my job there.

I am only sharing my experience.

Some relationships do start out as professional and then evolve to romantic, but when they do, I have heard that it is best to not have a professional relationship AND a romantic one at the same time, so if something does happen, maybe it's best if he had another tutor?

Sounds like a very confusing thing you are going thru.

I am not giving advice, just expressing my thoughts on this.

You can do whatever you need to do; it might be okay.

But I get the feeling it's just tearing you apart and might be almost interfering with the original reason you met him; tutoring.

Also, if he's not talking to you or being elusive about the other girl, I would just stay out of it.

If I were in your place, I would feel extremely awkward about even asking about it. You are his tutor, not his friend.

Just my thoughts.

Billi