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Originally Posted by KarmaharleyJD33
Hello There,
How can you tell if someone is lying to you about having DID??? My partner says that she has this disorder but I just don't see anything different in her myself. About a year ago she and I was doing some imaginary play to spice up our love life and she took it way out there to the 5th dimension so to speak saying that this person was really astral projecting in her body but she didn't do her homework on her. I caught her in her lies while she was doing it. She got into a fight with her friend and we were in here while she was on the bed crying and she was saying she was a pathological liar and I said No I think you might have DID because I done some research on it from going to school to be a psychologist and she said Yes this is what I have and I have been lying to you for the past 9 years Sorry. It sounded like to me she was pulling my chain. Just going along with what i said so that I wouldn't catch her in her other lie. I got fed up with it myself so it went on for a year with her and I of this alter reality of sorts that she said she was and got me all screwed up inside. My daughter even seen things that one minute she was this person and she forgot there names and mixed them up or whatever. It was a mess. She has always done drugs and I think she has an addiction to Meth is all and there is nothing wrong with her except that. No alters she has. She is just her. I see no difference in her personality except for that messed up year of her trying to screw with me then back to work again. I however had to go to a conselor after that crap. Our relationship has always been wierd and she can be controling to a point as well so is this her manipulating me to think that she has this for a blame or victim thing that ways she don't have to take the blame for anything in her life. Look at what she has done to me and how things has happened inside. This is what I say to myself. I am just asking other people what I should be looking for and what their opinions are on the matter this is all. She even tells me I have this and I tell her I don't. If I do I don't view me any other way but normal ole' Jessica. I feel something is out of order this is all and I am being played as a whole and I don't like that. My mother manipulated me and I don't want the same thing to happen in my relationship but I fear that is already has. I am done typing now. Love and light to all and sorry for the confusion here. Jessica
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Im sorry but Psych central does not allow us to debate / discuss whether someone has DID or not regardless if its the poster that may or may not have it or its the posters friends that may or may not have it. there is a sticky thread explaining discussing whether someone has it or not is against the rules of this website.
that said the only way you are going to know whether your friend has this or not is if she goes through the process of diagnostic evaluations with mental health provider.
you not seeing any difference. DID is a disorder that comes into being while the host (person with the disorder) is an extremely young child under the age of 5. It doesnt come into being with in the past year or so of an adults relationship. even the hosts parents dont usually pick up on the disorder.
plus people with DID have a system of alters. one kind of alters that all systems have is called protector alters. In some cases it is the protectors purpose / job to prevent other people from knowing /discovering the system of alters and do what ever they have to in order to protect the host from harm. if her system of alters perceives you as a threat to the host or system they will do what ever they have to (lie, cover up symptoms, or anything else they feel they have to do) in order to protect the host and system.
theres more to having or not having DID than what you can find in books, on the internet and in psych classes. on top of that the symptoms of dissociation and DID are shared by other mental disorders and physical health problems, and can also happen with completely normal people too. you diagnosing your friends / partners and others based on research and some psych classes can lead to some very dangerous situations..
for example I had a client that came in to the crisis center where I work. she had a friend that told her what she had ..DID. so my client agreed. when we required her to undergo diagnostic evaluations it was discovered she had epilepsy (which accounted for her loss of time / black outs / out of body, astro projection type symptoms) and Diabetes (which accounted for her dissociative like symptoms of numbness, spacyness, appearing to switch moods and alters and others).
if she had continued to go on her friends diagnosis based on her friends research and psych classes that girl would have lost body parts to amputation, blindness, deafness, coma, death and thats just from the diabetes, the epilepsy could have caused her to have seizures while driving, walking or any other activities that could have resulted in being physically harmed or death.
Another case we had at the crisis center one of our clients found an online support group. the people there told her she had DID. she agreed. she died. when the autopsy was done it was discovered she had cancer that had caused her to be anemic (which can account for many of her dissociative symptoms) and caused a tumor in her brain. The tumor was in a place that was operable but left on its own grew and caused mood swings, switching into what appeared to be alternate personalities, head aches and other dissociative symptoms. the tumor finally got too big and killed her.
recently one of our cases has discovered he didnot have what his friend told him he had. his friend told him based on researching and a psych class he was DID. this young man is now working with the prosecutors office. they are suing the friend for practicing without a license, and a host of other charges because his problem turned out to bipolar disorder, high blood pressure and a heart disease.
this person found out what they had after they had a heart attack while driving, whereby causing a vehicle accident where they killed a woman and child. the guy that is suing is now a quadriplegic. if his friend hadnt played at diagnosing this guy would have consulted his physician and a woman and child would still be alive and he would not be in a wheel chair for the rest of his life.
