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"Loving" someone is a commitment and an act of will.

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Wow. That's hitting the nail on the head. I've been pondering that for the last few minutes... it's the gospel truth. Thank you for those words.

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Janine -

Are you talking about a boyfriend or husband? Has he seen any combat duty?

I think separation makes it very hard to maintain a relationship.

I was married to a Vietnam Veteran before anyone knew that it could be dangerous to your health.

If he has been in any combat, I would be careful about telling him you don't love him anymore.

Feel free to PM me.

Hugs,

EJ

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I'm speaking of my husband. This is his second go-round in Iraq. We weren't together for the first one, but he had some pretty horrifying experiences then. This time he's nice and safe and in no way in combat.

It's not that I don't love him anymore, it's that sometimes I feel out of love with him (or out of infatuation, however you classify the feeling). I just hear that nasty voice in my head that bothers me. The separation certainly is a factor, likey the biggest one. I still despise that being with him is the exception rather than the rule. I don't know... Am I freaking out over nothing?