No, BlueCasper, it most certainly is not; there is more to life than isolation and pain! This is one of my biggest complaints against psychiatry as it is practiced today; if a doctor's treatment gets a patient to the point where s/he is no longer in immediate crisis, the doctor thinks his/her work is done. This is ridiculous. We need to be with patients all the way to full remission. And if we currently do not have the tools to bring about such a complete remission of symptoms (which sadly, for most patients with most disorders, we don't), then we ought to be earnestly conducting research to learn what else we can do.

Okay, rant completed. Now I will actually answer your main question. Like many posters have said, it depends on the woman. Some girls would be thrilled to find a man like you, who is honest and caring and loyal. Others are interested in other types of men. So if you don't give up, you'll find a special companion.

I personally wouldn't mind dating a man with a few issues, as I have them myself. I'd imagine that the suffering might have made him softer and more emotionally in-touch, which to me is a good thing (I'm bisexual, but prefer women partly because most men lack this emotional depth). I wouldn't want to date a man with a lot of issues if he wasn't actively working at overcoming them, however. I'm trying to get my bipolar under control with therapy and meds, so I'd want a potential boyfriend to be fighting as well.

I hope that this answers your questions. Don't give up hope; she's out there! And one day, you may be able to overcome your crippling anxiety and mood issues.

P.S. Make sure that you are looking for people to be "just" friends with, in addition to a girlfriend. Friendships often tend to be deeper than romantic relationships, on average definitely tend to last longer, and can also be very useful in alleviating loneliness.