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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I've been thinking about some of the mistakes my Ts have made with me. I don't want them to make mistakes, but they do. Mistakes made by a T can have long-lasting effects, like a parent who makes mistakes with us.
Has your T made any mistakes? How do you know if they have? I'm not sure if my T should have treated me the way she did or not so maybe they weren't mistakes. Maybe it's a case of being effective or less effective, productive or not productive. Is a T allowed to make mistakes?
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Ts are only human so, yes, they do make mistakes. I think it's a learning process for T. All clients are different. They have different needs and respond best to different approaches. I don't think a T can always know in advance how best to treat a client. That is particularly true if a client says they find something helpful or supportive-- but, in actuality, that behavior is enabling the client and therefore not in the client's best interest. This may take awhile for T to figure out.
However, there are also times Ts make mistakes when they really should know better. For instance, a T can forget important information the client has told, the T can be having a bad day and snap at a client or not offer the kind of support they should, or the T can become over-involved in the client's life and create a destructive, enabling, co-dependent pattern.
I think the first kind of mistakes are understandable, but the second would bother me and, if they happened repeatedly, would start sending red flags. However, I think do have to remember that Ts are human, too.