I relate to you on so many levels. I am married to and have BPD as well. We have a baby together and my husband has BPD too. This has been the hardest thing I have EVER been through. I constantly question is the right thing to do? Can we have a healthy marriage when we are both sick? My biggest fear is that this will affect my daughter's self esteem. I just get so emotional that I don't eat, because I sit around and worry about the future ALL the time.