Hi, Zooropa! I think it's an excellent email, but that there are pros and cons on each side: whether to send it or hand it to him or use it as your own prompt sheet at your next session.

If you send it to him he has at least a minimal time to ponder each of the questions, though I'm sure that each of your questions will give rise to a number of questions on his part. Personally, I'm not a fan of ambushes when the discussion of serious stuff is at stake. If you hold off and don't send it to him beforehand, I wonder if you'll get the same quality of answers that you would if you did send it. Particularly since you have many questions.

While I'm impressed by my own T's mental sharpness and speed, I still think there are mental limits that operate on all human beings. Those limits reduce the richness of an on-the-spot answer.

So why hold off? Why not send the email? Well, in some contexts the person asking the questions very much does want to disconcert and confuse the person who's answering, hoping to come up with statements that are in effect admissions of wrongdoing or of other matters negative to themselves.

Is that EVER a concern in the therapy situation? I would HOPE not! If your therapeutic alliance has degenerated to the point where you're trying to catch your T out, something's very wrong. Why set traps for T? Really. I think you and I and every patient would like T to spend as much private time as possible simply pondering our situation, our case, calling on their own deep resources to help generate THEIR insight into OUR problems.

So, bottom line? Email it to T and hope that he has enough spare time to focus on it and think about it for an hour or so by himself. I think he'll actually appreciate the lead time you give him. Good luck! And take care.