Rainbow, I think you are being too literal. Behavior and words are not things that can be arranged like furniture. I think you are thinking of the reframing as a literal, pretty picture having the old frame thrown out and a new one to replace it and you are worried you might not like the new frame so well with that picture?

It's more like a house with rotten beams, say termites have gotten to them :-) You want the house shored up and the beams replaced one by one, you want to reframe the house with more solid beams. It doesn't change the house, just how well it is supported.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ough-reframing