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Originally Posted by elliemay
Well, What if they aren't as deep as you think? How would that change things? What would happiness look like?
IMO these are the kinds of questions you should be thinking about and mulling over.
I mean for heaven's sake Rainbow, the world isn't going to end because your therapist wants to reframe your relationship. You'll still wake up in the morning Rainbow right?
What if you brainstormed with your therapist about ways to realize that these needs *aren't* to deep and can be addressed.
What if you allowed yourself no excuses. What do you think would happen?
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And I only say these things and ask these questions because these are the tools that have moved me past blindingly painful impasses in my own therapy and life.
When *something* has got to change, then *that* is the time for the *most* growth and potential.
You just have to create a space for something different and move into it.
Creating that space, I think, requires asking a lot of really really hard questions - entertaining thoughts that you would never consider, or be open to things that may be new.