Rainbow, that's a good question. Most of us here on this site are dealing with very tough issues. Sometimes it' s not anyone' s fault if a client doesnt improve. I look at times when therapy helped me but i got worse before i got better and other times it didnt work because i just needed a different type of therapy or i wasnt ready or the therapist wasnt experienced with my issues. It wasnt anybody' s fault.
But what you mentioned your T doing don' t sound like mistakes. It sounds like your T is reaching out to you by offering you to hold his/ her hand or have you email or am i missing something?