I know that when I was dealing with my Mother when she was dying of cancer, I felt like I was running on adrenelin. To top that off, I caught the home care RN calling to get a credit card using my Mothers ID & writting checks on my mothers account (both things I caught before she was successful), but before I could get her out of the house (5 days) she had the police called, accusing me of abusing my Mother & then she OD'ed my Mother on morphine. The fear of her & her threats just added to my stress. When I stress, I end up feeling nausea to the point where I can't eat or drink . I ended up being medically hospitalized to be treated for the anorexia....& due to the PTSD I have been experiecing since then, hasn't made the nausea any better....nor the weight gain any easier. Maybe the death of her father effected her with a stress that may not be obvious to even her.....& is easier for her to blame the eating problems on something else.

As with many ED's, there are many things that go into the cause.......also, grief is something that sounds like she may need some help with too......November isn't that long ago, & she may not be able to talk through even those issues that may be bothering her. Yes, we are examples that can also be followed by our children, but that may only be a piece of the puzzle that needs to be sorted out with help before it gets to the point that her health is in jeapordy.

Please take care of you & your daughter......you have also gone through many traumas over the past months......maybe getting help together would make it easier on her too.....just a thought.

Debbie