forgot to say, I know that some of those questions probably seemed like I'm trying to "catch" T in something. I'm not sure what, but I am aware that a lot of it comes from hurt feelings and a lot of confusion on my part, which is why I posted it here instead of just sending it.
It's not that I'm trying to catch her, it's that I desperately want to hear the answers I want to hear. If that makes any sense.
Instead of asking T for that I'm working on providing those answers to myself, and on accepting that T isn't god: her opinion is just that and it is not a FACT.

But I do want to know if she can explain what she said about trauma, because I can't stop hearing that: trauma is just going to keep happening...I can hear her voice and see the sort of dismissive gesture she made while she said it, and the way she seemed to be sort of almost-smiling or smirking. It is just a really disturbing thing that I can't shake loose.