Hi Rainbow, sorry I wasn't real clear about the schema therapy website. I didn't mean you should try schema therapy -- not many T's are trained to do it. I suggested looking at the schemas in that particular domain because they seem to fit your pattern, particularly the dependence/incompetence schema and the enmeshment/undeveloped self schemas. The treatment strategy requires a delicate balancing act by the T because she needs to allow just enough dependence and enmeshment to keep the patient in treatment but not enough to make the therapy itself rewarding. The T gradually withdraws so that the therapy relationship is not the focus, and the patient focuses on individuating and taking risks to develop self-confidence.