VH: Thanks: that's good advice. Acceptance is key to happiness.

hankster: I remember RET, vaguely. I'm sorry your Mom wasn't nice and that you were afraid of her. I'm fortunate to have good memories of mine. I'm not sure what I'm afraid of.

SarahMichelle: thank you

elliemay: I like to try to answer everyone who takes the time to post. My T is so positive; she's trying to get me to be that way but it's hard to change. I'll start: I CAN do it, like "the little engine that could". He said "I think I can. I think I can. I think I can" and he made his way over the mountain so the children could get their toys and food!

likewater: It could be that my T didn't make mistakes but if not, why am I still stuck in the same place? The hand holding is reaching out, yes, but if it makes me more dependent on my T, it's not good. Actually, my gut feeling is STILL that holding her hand helps me and doesn't hurt me.

PH: The schema website was very interesting! I was pleased that the treatment for BPD, at least part of it, was exactly the way IFS works and the way my T treats me! For example: ask what that child part looks like, what she needs, and how client can give it to her. That's not a quote, but it was similar enough to make me smile! I do wonder why no one has mentioned schema therapy for BPD. I'll have to check out the BPD site and ask. Maybe it's better than DBT.