I think it is between your son and your husband. It is extremely hard to stand to one side as you watch two of the people you love most having a hard time with each other but it is important that they have the opportunity to develop their relationship without any help. Listen to your husband when he *****es about your son, pat him on the arm and murmer soft agreement to the idiocy of your son. Love your son for all his bullheaded ways and murmer soft consolations when his house falls down.
Take care, good luck,
Zen

<font color=blue>I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but, it comes from within. It is there all the time.--Anna Freud