I see my T today. This thread has helped me get perspective on my session last week. Thanks, everyone.
I'm reframing "mistakes" as learning experiences but I still want to ask my T if she thinks they hurt me or not. I especially have to resolve the "holding her hand" issue though ATM I don't feel I need it. I can visualize how it feels and that safe, warm feeling is mine to keep forever no matter what.
dizgirl: thank you.
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What you maybe need is someone who encourages more independance, however that will feel painful to you because its not what you want or what you at least feel you need.....so there are major conflicts there and a T has to try and balance things out. Like with the emails, she thought it would help you and it was what you wanted, so she tried to meet that want but realised that you felt more and more distressed at the reponses she gave so instead of continuing that, which was not going to be helpful, she decided to change things.......I guess you may see that as a mistake but you could also just see it as a realisation that there was a better way to try and help?
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You have a knack of getting to the truth! My T even said, when she changed the rule about emails, that she always has to readjust--I think that was her word.
stopdog: you're right. Fortunately my T is honest with me and wouldn't blame me for anything.
PH: Thank you! Schema therapy looks a lot like IFS, which pleases me since it is what my T does. Has anyone here been in t with a T who uses this kind of therapy?
tigergirl: thanks!
MUE:
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Rainbow, I honestly don't feel that it's about mistakes or messing up with you and your T. It's movement. It's learning new processes. It's evolving. And you're resisting it, which is understandable and has meaning in itself.
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The above is very insightful. I AM resisting it. Something to think about; thank you.