Rainbow8, this is weird to say: I feel like you don't "get" my responses. I understand that you get a lot of responses, and it's not that my feelings are hurt by this, but you ignore the questions I ask you, and I am surprised by the stuff you DO focus on, like you said, "i'm sorry your mom was like that, but mine wasn't".
I will continue to comment because it helps me, but I wonder if you are not hearing and answering your T in depth as well? I see you as busy with your hands, arranging things in front, so we don't see what's behind. That's how the email once a week etc appears to me, frantically rearranging options, but don't look at the feelings. Does this ring a bell on a specific incident?