Hey Distressed,

I have a feeling that he probably didn't say anything to that girl. She probably stopped talking to you out of respect to her friend. At least, that is what I would have done. If my friend came up to me and said that he was no longer seeing someone after only seeing the person for a short amount of time, then I wouldn't be comfortable continuing a friendship with the person he was seeing. At the absolute worst, he might have vented a little, but I highly doubt that would turn into a vicious rumor that is going to destroy your career reputation. On this matter, I would try very hard not to think about it or worry about it. Whatever was said, if anything, is beyond your control anyways, so there's no point in trying to worry about things you can't control. If you really can't stop worrying about your reputation, then work extra hard to stay level headed, calm, and collected, and polite and friendly at work.

In regards to the relationship, this is again, beyond your control. You can't control his actions, feelings, thoughts, etc. Try to move past everything and take what you can from it as a learning experience. In the future, if you start to feel panicky in your relationship, try things like journalling about it or having a calm, non-judgmental, blame free conversation with your partner about what you're feeling, why you think you're feeling that way, and what the two of you, as a team, can do together to help ease what you're feeling. Start practicing calm breathing techniques so when you get into another situation where you are yelling and then begging, you can stop, take a few deep breaths, and try to channel that energy into something positive instead of negative.

Try not to beat yourself up over this. Everyone has to go through difficulties to help them learn how to be the person they want to be. Also remember not to stress about things you can't control -- it will drive you crazy. I know everything I said is a lot easier said than done, but reward yourself for baby steps and small accomplishments. Good luck! Remember to take care of you!