I can say that most of the therapy that I have had since 1994 has been throwing money down the drain. Issue started with loosing my career/my identity & didn't want to live. Not one T could help. They couldn't change the situation & they never bothered to offer me any skills to deal with the emotions I had going on. Then a trauma hit & a whole different can of worms exploded.

For me, the DBT teaching of skills & having it set up as learning (which is the only thing I was ever good at in the first place) has been the only therapy that has ever made sense because it's applied to our every day lives & what we are going through & being observant of the world around us, seeing how we react & then determining how better we can react in order to survive it in a better way.....& if nothing else, make sure that one doesn't get worse. Status quo can be the best option at times if there is nothing we can do to make something better.

For me it's good because it sticks to the hear & now without having to go back & say how horrible your parents were & what an awful job they did.....know as a parent, I tried to be better than my parents & did a horrible job at it because I had nothing to model my idea after & blew it in areas where my parents didn't.......for me, the important thing is how I deal with the hear & now. I can chain back to where my thought processes come from at times, but sticking in the hear & now has been an important aspect of the DBT also.

I remember one T at the very beginning commented on how hard it was to do T with extremely intelligent people. For me everything had to be logical or I wouldn't accept what they offered. I have a very wonderful psychologist now who is very logical which was originally shocking for me when I started with her a few years ago. She actually offered other ways of looking at things & suggestions of how to handle things that came up in my life & feelings that were caused from the trauma I went through.

We all have different reasons why we are in therapy, but the basic one is because what we are doing isn't always the best way to cope with things in our life & have some problems otherwise we wouldn't need therapy. Learning new ways of handling situations & learning how to better deal with the problem areas in our life is really what therapy is all about.......wow, that was what I was looking for from the beginning only no one offered that solution to me until now.