Well, my daughter knows and does not like it but this does not change the fact for my partner doing it. You can't make a drug addict change they have to want to do it themselves. I am still going through crap with myself but do my own therapy to a point with video blogs. I don't know if it helps me or hinders me to tell you the truth. I journal too. i sing as well and this helps more than anything because I didn't use to be able to sing but I think I came in contact with my inner voice now and she helps me sing. Great connection I have found with me while going through this crap but I got it confused with alternate personality disorder that my partner told me I had. I however believe that we all have aspects to ourselves that help us be more of who we are. I encouraged her to go to a conselor many times and she will not go. I have been there three times to figure out if I had alters because of a year of crap that I went through with my spouse coming out (long story) short... The conselor told me after 5 sesions I knew myself pretty well and didn't really help me so here I am. The conselor thing did not help with me at all so I gave up on it. I do have OCD and anxiety that I have been diagnosed with but as far as my partner she has a drug problem and I believe she has manipulated me to believe this about her because she has done this in the past with other things and I have gained control over those areas of my life like going to see my mother and having say so over my daughter and tons of other things. If you want a more clear story I can tell you but I will have to write it out from the begining because I know this is confusing. Bottom line I can't help someone who does not want to be helped and is very smart in deed.... Thank you for your advice. love and light.. Jess