Ok... let's see if we can clear things up just a bit more. I'm not sure what you mean when you say "what I did about my family". Is this in regards to them keeping me at arm's length? To simplify, it was their move, not mine. What I'm trying to figure out is WHAT made them move back? I can give you reasons/excuses but they may not be right.

My oldest son is NOT emotionally available. He's there to give me advise on business matters, even between family members.

My daughter has Bordeline Personality Disorder. She was already angry with me before I turned her into CPS for beating her oldest son and neglecting the baby's health. Before I turned her in, I had already pleaded with her to talk to me. It the same breath, I told her that I was undoubtely going to do or say something stupid and she would never talk to me again. It was a self-fulfiling prophecy or she took her cue from it. IDK.

My youngest, I can excuse him by saying he's in the grips of a controlling, manipulative woman who is deathly threatened by me, was from the very beginning. Not to mention that Jerry has taken advantage of the rift between us to worm his way into "first place." Jerry will kiss ***** when it suits him. I won't!

With Jerry, I talked with him, wrote letters to him, went with him to see a T and most of all, compromised to the point that I was losing myself. He told me that I frustrated him so much that he was thinking of living out of state for an indefinite amount of time, but would keep all his things here and use this place as his home base. That's when I told him that he was free to go but that I couldn't handle not knowing when he would be here for me and when he wouldn't. It was either stay or go. He threw it back in my face why he wanted to leave for a while. I told him to go, but he wasn't coming back.

So! Do you think that I've been saying one thing and doing another? Honestly. Do you see me doing that?

My T told me a long time ago that those around you will resent you when you change the ground rules on them like establishing boundaries. GUILTY! I didn't have boundaries when the kids were growing up but I learned about them while in therapy.

Isn't that what you are doing when you tell your family, "Please! I can't take it anymore!" You shouldn't have to cave in or fall apart when you set those boundaries. You're doing it to keep from falling apart, right?

Think about what I've just written. You know me and the way I interact on the board. Yes, I can get pushy, I argue with people, I even stop talking to people and visa versa, but eventually we all deal with it or talk it out and everything is back to normal. At least, that's MY perspecitve. Correct me if I'm wrong... please!