My fiance and I both look at porn, but as a part of a healthy, normal sexual relationship. He very well understands my hopes and dreams and fears as I understand his. I do agree that if porn begins to substitute for a sexual relationship with their partner (this applies to either one in the relationship), then a problem exists. Additionally, porn becomes a problem whenever the porn viewer can not become turned-on without the help of porn. At that point, fantasy is becoming far more important than reality, and additional help is needed. Porn does not make men violent, nor does it "make" them stray. I would have to say that porn is part of the problem when a man (or woman) stares lustfully at potential sex partners, or "goes into a trance", but the fact of the matter is that the person in question has far greater problems than the porn itself - namely, the inability to be considerate of their partner. There will be other outlets as well for this behavior besides sexual. It's just one more way, that's all.

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett