Been wondering the same thing myself. My therapist when I saw her last said some things that got me thinking about certain situations not related to sexual abuse but it triggered some thoughts that have since been ringing the caution bells kind of thing, nothing definate as in remembering any actualsexual abuse situations but the thoughts are just a hair short of it. very thought provolking.

Sexual abuse is any unwanted sexually oriented comment to touches and on to the full acts. so yea it sounds to me from what you have posted that she did sexually abuse you. I see sexually oriented comments, I see sexually oriented touches both of which is inappropiate and considered sexual abuse.