(((Lynn P))). I am so sorry you and your children are struggling with all of this. Outside of the 2nd wife, but including all of the multiple accounts he has, and you 'options' - your story is essentially my parents story too. I can relate to all of it just being a frustrating unending mess. Unfortunately i am just the eldest daughter in the situation (like yours, and literally with mine) so i am sorry; i dont know how to help besides offering a listening ear for support and another