Thank you ((notablackbarbie)) - I saw at first you gave a hug then decided later to add your own feelings. I appreciated even the hug and even more you sharing. I understand my situation is extremely complicated because he's not a rational person, so I know its hard for anyone to solve this. I still appreciate even hugs. I'm sorry you also have unhappy parents.

Thank you also to ((KathyM)) and sharing your thoughts. I told him its important to be thankful for whatever God gives us. When I was pregnant, it didn't matter to me if it was a boy or girl...as long as God gave me a healthy child. I would accept an ill or disabled child. If God wanted him to have a boy, then he would have given him one. If we do get divorced and he does try to have a baby, it will be ironic if he has a girl. There's also no guarantee that boy will be a blessing to him. My girls are smart, compassionate, strong and talented - I'm grateful I have such blessings.

He told me how his brother has his 2nd marriage..... had a girl now 20 with the 1st then had a girl(14months) with his 2nd wife. She's pregnant again and my husband said "she wants to give him a boy". My husband is 51 and if he does have another child, he'll be old when the child is a teenager. He's a frustrating human being, that I don't have the tolerance for anymore. It would be so much simpler if he would want the divorce too - he thinks he can do whatever he feels like and still come home to a supposed normal wife and kids.