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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
without getting too much into detail... i think my problems are rooted in my fears... for example, I don't want a partner as I might be too much of mess for them.... I fear of hurting people by my mere existence, by some stupid but "fatal" mistake. And sometimes I don't want to get tied down... I am a loner and I don't bond well... and yeah, I do things on my own, hence my being hesitant about other being able to help.
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That right there is a great reason to work with a T rather than on your own. If you work on your own, you're just reinforcing the belief that you're too much for them, they can't help you, etc. If you work with a T, you can learn that just existing is not going to negatively impact the T, that you're not too much for them, etc. I think that since your fears revolve around relationships with others, establishing a working relationship with a T might be very beneficial. It would be a safe place to practice the dynamics of interpersonal relationships and get genuine feedback.